Saturday, May 31, 2014

schedule of a ladyboss

just so that in the future I can look back on a day like this and know that in the end...all will be well and I survived.  although I'm currently ugly sick with a cold, and getting up every hour all night to nurse, there's no rest for the weary.  this is literally how my day went...


6:40am

-nurse baby

7:00am

-clean & sterilize bottles for pumping later in the day

-shower 

-give baby a bath

-get breakfast & lunch ready

8:00am

-nurse baby

8:30am

-meeting at laie elem. with ahonui's teacher, counselors, vice principal, and psychologist.  2nd grade for him is looking up!

9:15

-nurse baby

-eat breakfast

-get ready for work

-family prayers

10:00

-work 

11:00

-pump

2:00

-leave work

2:15

-pump

2:35

-pick up baby from in-laws 

3:00

-dr. appointment for well-baby checkup.  3 shots...ugh!

4:05

-nurse baby

4:20

-drop off Brandon at work

4:30

-work 2nd job

6:30

-eat lunch (yes, lunch)

6:50

-nurse baby

7:15

-make dinner (saimin, I know, I'm so gourmet).

8:00

-shower nahe, get her dressed, brush her hair

-try to soothe crying baby who is fussy from the 2 millz shots

8:30

-nurse baby

8:50

-tidy up: put dishes away, clean living room

-scarf down a few bites of saimin that nahe didn't finish

-clean up huge puddle of water that nahe just spilled all over the kitchen floor

-refill 1,000th juice cup for nahe

-turn "turbo" on DVD so nahe can chill for a bit

9:20

-pick up Brandon at work

9:45

-put nahe down to sleep


....aaaand now that the hubby is home, I can finally stop. and breathe.  until baby wakes up for his next feed, that is.  and then the all-nighter begins.


like a boss.  LOL!

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

catching up with ahonui


this little boy has been quite the busy bee lately, which is ironic because he is not the type of kid that enjoys having a tight schedule.

he needs to wake up early each morning to get himself ready for school, eat breakfast, and make his lunch for the day.  (I've done away with buying him school lunch...he's a VERY picky eater so all he consumes is the fruit and milk!  what a waste of $2.25 every day.  that's $45/month!  so he now has the responsibility to make and bring his own home lunch.)  sometimes he has to walk all the way home when school is done. when he gets home, the first thing he's supposed to do is his homework. this usually includes reading a chapter from "sideways stories from wayside school" and math.


I'm guessing that all his "hard work" has paid off, because he was finally chosen to be super citizen for the month of April in his first grade class!  it was his last chance to be super citizen for the year and this boy pulled it off.  whether he was chosen by default or by hard work, I'm proud of him.

 

on tuesdays & thursdays he had baseball practice at the cricket field, and on wednesdays & saturdays he had games at hauula elementary school's baseball field.  when brandon & i told him that we signed him up for the baseball season, he cried.  i mean literally cried and threw a fit. i had to calm him down and explain to him that nobody on the team really knew how to play, and they would all be new to the game, so he didn't need to worry.  the coaches would help him.  he seemed to feel better and he did awesome this season!  even though he dragged his feet every time i told him to get ready for practice or a game, he'd give it his all while on the field.  this past saturday was his final game of the season and we are SO SOOO proud of him for sticking it out!!



a few weeks ago, laie elementary held their may day program.  each grade performed dances from different countries around the world, and the first grade performed mexico.  when he told us that he'd be SALSA dancing, i couldn't help but giggle thinking of his dancing skills (or lack of).  when he finally got onstage with his dancing partner, he did amazing!  he seemed to remember all the moves and he didn't have any stage fright at all.  once again - proud mama hen status here.






and very soon summertime will be upon us...which means he can set aside his busy bee schedule and make room for free time and hot, sunny beach days!!  we love our sweetheart of a son.

Thursday, May 15, 2014

separation anxiety

I returned to work 2 weeks ago.  up until then though, this is how i was spending my days...


to have to leave my little man and separate myself from him for the first time since he was born was UTTERLY AGONIZING to say the least.  he was my first child that i had exclusively breastfed without supplementing with formula.  due to nursing him 24/7, i think I had a connection and bond with him so strong that i may not have had with my first two babies at this time in their lives.  i knew that he literally needed me, and i felt that 
reciprocation even more this time around.

being on bedrest for 7 weeks during the final stages of my pregnancy, then 6 more weeks after baby was born meant that I had been on maternity leave for almost 13 weeks.  so i was now forced to readjust to life as a working mom.  the 2 or 3 days prior to returning back to work, i'd just stop and stare at him while he slept.  knowing that i'd soon have to be away from baby lino for so long during the day just broke my heart. 

when i had to get ready for work on the morning of my first day back, even though i had him in my arms practically all night to nurse, i held him again.  i held him tight, i held him close, and I let the tears fall.  it was probably one of the hardest things i've had to do...to let go and hand him over to brandon.


now that both he and i are in the swing of things and are adjusting to our current routines (he stays with Brandon & nahe until the late morning hours then spends a few hours at grandma's until I pick tm up) I've had to come to terms with the requirements of reality.  I've tried to lessen the frequency of morning sobs as it has become easier to let go.  

the only issue now?  getting ready and out the door by 8am!


Tuesday, May 13, 2014

the arrival of baby lino

baby was expected on march 18th.  both ahonui AND nahe were born exactly on my due date which made things much easier to plan ahead of time.  however, this little bubba threw us a curve ball...

at 39 weeks and 4 days along in the pregnancy, i had my final routine prenatal appointment on saturday, march 15th.  since the appointment was all the way in town, i seriously considered cancelling it because it was such a hassle to drive out there for just a few minutes of a checkup.  I ended up forgetting to cancel the appointment so we packed up the entire family and made the drive out to Kaneohe to see Dr. Li Duen Clark.
the kids get really loud and rambunctious in small spaces, so brandon and the kids waited outside in the van while I went in to the doctors office alone.  I figured we'd be doing the same old...pee in a cup, check the weight gain (always scary, lol), check the blood pressure, yada yada yada, and I'd be back out in a jiffy.  dr. clark's practice is wonderful...she does an ultrasound at each appointment to check baby's heart, growth, fetal positioning, placenta, and amniotic fluid levels.  I usually check out pretty good at all my appointments.  but this time, when dr. clark performed the ultrasound, I noticed that she had a worried look on her face.  she kept moving around, looking hard at the screen.  then she gave me the news...

she told me that my amniotic fluid levels were very low and that baby could go into distress without the cushion of those fluids, or he couldn't be getting enough fluids flowing through.  she said, "well, it looks like you'll be having this baby today!  you need to go to the hospital now to induce labor." 

SHOCK!!!

so after leaving dr. clark's office, even though I was supposed to go and check in to the birth center, I decided to go with Brandon back to laie - quickly!  (baaaad, baaaad patient, you don't have to tell me, I already know.)  I had to get all the final things together for my hospital bag, get something to eat, take the kids to my in-laws, and install the infant car seat.  Brandon was willing to go back to laie on his own to get everything sorted, then return to the hospital, but I just needed to take a little more time to get used to the idea that this baby was coming very, very soon!!

a quick shot to show my humongousness before heading to the hospital and pop this baby OUT!
on our way back to town after getting all my things together, I got a call from hospital's birth center..."where ARE you?"  lol, my bad. 

we checked in to the Vera Zilber birth center at Castle Medical Center by 1:15pm, anxious and ready to get the party started!!






it took some time (and a LOT of routine questions) for the nurses to get us into a room and begin the induction process.  so Brandon & I had nothing to do but wait around and what else...take selfies!

once we were moved to our labor & delivery room, got settled, and began my IV with oxytocin, it was probably around 3:30pm.  it didn't take long before the contractions started, but they seemed pretty mild compared to what I experienced during my labors with ahonui & nahe.  I'm a huge fan of the epidural and all, but thought that I'd wait to get it until the contractions were more painful and closer together.  

around 8:30 I asked for the epidural...not because I was in so much pain (because I think I was doing okay), but because I didn't want to wait until it was too late to get it, and the pain would be too unbearable by then. when the anesthesiologist started the epidural, he seemed to have some trouble getting the long needle into my back properly.  with my first two experiences getting the epidural, they were seamless, piece of cake compared to the pain from labor.  this time i kept flinching...like he kept hitting a nerve!  as brandon held me to keep me steady, he said a quiet prayer.  after that, everything went smoothly and the anesthesiologist was able to finish the procedure without any problems.  so grateful for brandon and his priesthood power.

i was able to rest once the epidural juice kicked in.  my goal by that point was to have baby out by 10pm.  unfortunately, you can't really call the shots when it comes to childbirth.  because it wasn't until 10:40pm when the nurses had to wake me up to start pushing.

at 10:56pm that evening - saturday, march 15th, our baby boy Linohao Teroera Kealii Kahaialii was born.  he weighed in at 8 lbs. 6 oz. and was 20 inches long.





since i was induced instead of the labor naturally starting on it's own, the pain seemed a lot more tolerable...or maybe because childbirth is easier with each consecutive baby?  if that's the case, bring on the babies!!  (kidding.)

when i pick this chubba up from work each day, it seems that he's gained another layer of fat on his little bitty body.  he has the loudest cry i've ever heard which can be compared to the shriek of a wild banshee.  he seems to always know when i'm near because his head and eyes turn in my direction when he's being held by someone else.  he loves to nuzzle against my neck when i'm done feeding him and in the process of getting his burps out.  his big brother and sister always ask to hold him, but haven't quite got the hang of it yet.  he's starting to smile a lot now which just melts anyone who's watching him.

we are absolutely in love with our baby lino.  these past 8 weeks with him have definitely been hard trying to keep up with life with trying to manage all 3 kids, running on no sleep, quick meals, and a small house in disarray.  looking forward to life getting back to feeling a little more normal, but enjoying every moment with our new bundle of joy.

Monday, May 5, 2014

life with 3

our baby boy was born just over seven weeks ago on Saturday, March 15th...only 3 days before my due date.  baby is strong and healthy, and is getting chunkier by the day!  since I'm nursing day & night I barely have the strength sometimes to lift his growing chubby body - let alone have time to update my blog...so sorry!

It's taken some time adjusting to life with 3 bubbas, but I love the idea that our family is growing!  here's what I feel the difference is with having 3 kids rather than one or two...

-the other two kids tend to bicker, argue, tease, and FIGHT a lot...perhaps to get the parents attention.
-the other two kids make a lot of noise playing (or fighting) which frequently wakes baby up.  arrrrgh.
-you may have twice the amount of help where the older child can do more difficult chores (Ahonui now takes out the trash.  wooohooo!) while the younger one can handle simpler ones (nahe is supposed to pick up the toys...note: supposed to.).
-the older ones have places to be (Ahonui has school and baseball) and things to do (homework!), which means you can't just sit around with your new bundle all day...you've gotta get them all ready and out the door - on time!
-we haven't yet had any "house rules" in our home, but now with 3 kids...it feels like we really need rules (and consequences. lol)!
-walking around with 3 children makes me feel more "motherly" I guess...it's more responsibility right smack in front of my face.

while it's proven to be more difficult with more little ones that depend on us, we still feel very blessed, and very grateful.  one day at a time...

...next up: baby's birth story!