I honestly don't think any mom (or parent, for that matter) can avoid the feelings of guilt that constantly wash over you. recently those self-inflicted "bad-mommy" thoughts are becoming overwhelming. but I really think that these kinds of thoughts are validating...
- the "yes-you're-going-to-Gramma's-house-again-all-day-so-we-can-go-to-work" guilt.
- the "no-you-can't-go-to-Gramma's-house-because-mommy's-home" guilt.
- the "you-love-my-sister-more-than-me" guilt. UGGGH!!!
- the "no-my-six-year-old-can't-ride-a-bike-yet" guilt.
- the "I-didn't-take-my-kids-to-the-laie-days-Summer-Bash-because-I-was-tired" guilt.
- the "McDonalds-drive-thru-for-dinner" guilt.
- the "I-just-yelled-unnecessarily-at-my-kids" guilt.
- the "hurry-up-and-do-this-homework-so-you're-not-a-complete-idiot-at-school" guilt.
- the "change-your-clothes-so-it-looks-like-you're-clean" guilt.
- the "all-my-son's-teeth-has-silver-caps-on-them" guilt.
- the "they-just-watched-TV-and-played-on-the-iPhone-all-day" guilt.
- the "eat-this-popcorn-so-I-don't-need-to-cook" guilt.
- the "you're-going-to-Gramma's-again-so-Daddy-and-I-can-go-out-to-dinner" guilt.
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| I suppose we don't look like we're feeling too bad about leaving the kids with grandma & gramps...whoops. guilty again! |
I know that nobody is perfect. but there sure are a lot of moms out there that appear as if they've got their ducks in a row and they're doing a heck of a lot better than I am...taking their kids to the park, for walks, or to community activities. feeding them three home-cooked, balanced, nutritious meals every day, with a spotless home, and obedient angels as offspring. so you can imagine how much guilt can consume one such as myself when I clearly am not adequately fitting into the category of a mom with angelic offspring. worldly influences endorse to us that life is a competition. and even though I know that's not the case here, I can't help but think that I may be falling behind on the imaginary scoreboard of life.
how do you balance your time with all the necessities of life? how do you explain to your children that life isn't always fair? how do you overcome these feelings of mom guilt?
3 comments:
Harm, don't get down on yourself. We moms can only do so much. It's not a bad thing to aspire to something or someone who appears to have it all together. But remember even those "perfect" moms have their bad days, weeks, months, and years. All things in due time and remember patience with those you love and yourself.
I can't wait to have kids. But don' thave all of those guilts :-) Otherwise you wouldn't be a normal mom I think. And moreso, don't be like those two-millz pinterest moms from Utah who appear to make millions of crazy crafty artsy crap, and then still have the house made, the kids clean, and they look like barbies. They're not normal.
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